We live in a world where validation seems to fuel our existence. A simple "like" or "comment" on social media can make or break our mood. But why are we so dependent on external approval?
Validation, at its core, feels like a warm hug. It reassures us that we're on the right path, that our actions and choices matter. Social media has amplified this need by making approval quantifiable—10 likes, 100 likes, 1K followers. It’s addictive, like a drug that feeds our self-worth.
The Problem !
Constantly seeking validation can trap us in a loop of insecurity. We become performers in our own lives, crafting moments not for ourselves but for an audience. Over time, our identity blurs with others' expectations, leaving us emotionally drained and disconnected. The "validation high" is fleeting, and its absence feels like a void.
The Solution:
True self-worth comes from within. Shift the focus from external approval to self-acceptance.
Set Micro-Wins for Yourself:
Instead of waiting for someone to notice your effort, start celebrating small personal victories. For example, finished your work early? Treat yourself to your favorite snack or binge-watch a show guilt-free.
Talk to Your Inner Circle:
Sometimes, a meaningful compliment from someone who really knows you can mean more than 100 likes. Share your thoughts or efforts with a trusted friend or family member—they’ll remind you of your worth without the filters.
Detach the Outcome:
Next time you share a post or wear something bold, remind yourself: It’s okay if not everyone notices. The real win is the effort you made or how happy it made you feel.
Example: Wore a quirky outfit?
Think: Do I love this? instead of Will others like this?
Switch the Focus to Experiences:
Instead of posting about what you’re doing, fully immerse yourself in the moment. Laugh louder, take mental pictures, and just enjoy without worrying about sharing it. Trust me, the memory will feel richer than the likes ever could.
Set a Limit on Social Media:
Not a strict detox, just baby steps. Maybe skip scrolling during meals or right before bed. It’ll help you realize how much time you spend seeking validation, and cutting back can free you to focus on real connections.
Always Remember,
No applause can match your fire,
You’re more than what the world admires.
In your heart, the truth does lay,
You’re enough in every way...
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